Sharing your experiences with others
Published 7:00 am Wednesday, February 10, 2016
I don’t know about you, but when someone in my family experiences a loss, it affects the entire clan.
On May 22, 2012, my sister gave birth to Evan James. It was too soon and he didn’t make it. On June 19, 2013, Gracie Marie also arrived too soon and joined her brother in heaven.
My entire family grieved for the losses.
However, no matter how hard we tried or stared at my sister, none of us understood what she went through or continues to endure today.
Much like Pearl River County mother, Toni Farmer, my sister turned to support groups to engage with mothers who experienced loss.
I think it’s a wonderful thing, it’s definitely easier to talk to someone who knows the pain you suffer.
I believe Farmer’s new support group, Wings of Grief, is a wonderful way to honor the memory of her daughter Tori, whose life was cut short due to a tragic accident.
As I sat with Farmer and looked at photographs of Tori, I wished I could have met the spunky teenager who enjoyed making silly faces.
During my conversation with her mother, I realized I was speaking with a woman who possessed an enormous amount of strength and courage.
Unless we’ve experienced certain losses and events, we won’t ever really know what it’s like and how to properly help our family and friends.
Sitting down with people who share a common story, I feel, is the best medicine for living your life when the ones who love are no longer nearby.
However, Tori will always be nearby, kept alive in the hearts of those who loved and knew her best. Even though I never met my nephew and niece, I will never forget them.
I can only wish Farmer the best in this endeavor. I feel it will be a great success and help to many because her heart is in the right place.